the love of my life for 28 years has stage 4 bladder cancer. he was diagnosed in april, took his bladder out in june, and it had spread to lymph nodes, so they put it at stage 4. he just finished his first cycle of chemo, gemzar and carboplatin, and isnt doing too well. he is so weak and fatigued, and then got a terrible case of the hiccups that has lasted for almost 2 weeks now..its so bad that he vomits with them, and has terrible spasms and cant breath! the docs dont know why he is hiccuping and giving him all sorts of meds to try, but they just make him more tired and weak. even hospitalized him for this! he has to sleep sitting up in a recliner to stop the spasms now. i am so afraid and worried about losing my husband, he has been my rock forever, now i am trying to be his rock. i have never had to deal with cancer, never thought i would have to. this has rocked our world, as you can imagine. i am just needing someone to talk to or listen to about this. we have supportive family and a couple of friends, others ran from us and i dont understand that at all, but i just want someone who is going thru similar thing to talk with. the dr. gives us 30% chance that he will make it, and i am just so worried. my husband says its just a number and he doesnt care if its zero, he is going to be just fine! i wish i had his attitude! i try to stay strong and up around him, and then i fall apart when he isnt around. i know i am not alone, but i feel so alone, lost, helpless and useless. i guess i just need to vent, and found this wonderful site, and here i am venting away. he has 5 more cycles of chemo to go, then hopefully will be cured? they tell us they will do ct scans, but not to get too optomistic, because a negative scan doesnt mean there is no cancer. well, how then do we know if there is cancer or not? that confuses us both! the cancer center we go to is wonderful, we are treated so well there, and that helps..some...i am just trying to picture the next few months, and cant imagine my husband feeling/getting worse than he is now, but i know its coming. but, we will fight this vile thing called cancer, and will beat it too!! i wont accept any other option!! my husband has such faith and a great attitude usually, and i am trying to keep the faith as well..its just so hard sometimes... sometimes, i just get so mad, not at any one person, just mad!! today was a very hard day for me, just cant quit crying!
would love to hear from anyone out there going thru the same thing...