Hi Maureen, I am so sorry for you and your husband, I know exactly how you just got kicked in the stomach from the news!! It was April 17th for us, then again in June to find out the stage 4 part of it. I know the textbook prognosis for stage 4 isnt good, but I have been hearing from enough good people out there (thanks Rick) to not listen to numbers and statistics!! And I am trying to do just that, but I know its so hard!!! If I can help you in anyway, compare notes with the chemo, be here to listen and let you vent, feel free! I am finding it helps and am so glad I found this web site!! I never dreamed there were so many other people out there in my same situation! I cannot offer many words of comfort either, but just hang in there, try to keep positive, email me if you want and we can keep each other updated and like i said, compare notes.
One thing I have noticed lately within me, is that I have been feeling like my husband is upset with me, or that I am getting on his nerves trying to take care of his every need. It hurts me when I cry and he just ignores it, and then I feel guilty for that because he is the one with the heavy load of having cancer and I feel selfish for thinking these thoughts, like its so petty!
Feel free to contact me anytime to vent or whatever.
take care of you and yours!!
Paula