Hi Karen, Maureen and Susan,
It just amazes me everytime I log on here and find more people with the same life as I have right now! Its just mind boggleing! My Ben had been having blood in his urine (without letting me know) for a couple of years, and had previously had kidney stones and chalked it up to that. When we came back from vacation in march is when he finally told me about the blood. I had him at the dr. office right away, they did a ct scan, then went to urologist who did cystoscopy the next week, and told us he had 2 large tumors and needed the radical cystectomy. That was scheduled for june 25, was going to have a neo-bladder, but the surgeon called me half way thru surgery saying it was in his nodes. took the bladder anyway and said he needed chemo asap. so now he has a pouch, and we are both fine with that. at first, we were told he had a 6% chance of survival, and now the oncologist we are seeing gave us a little more hope with 30% chance. They are all just numbers to me now, and we are fighting with everything we have and then some! right now, he has only had one cycle of chemo and its kicking his butt big time! he gets
one week----gemzar
second week---gemzar & carboplatin
third week----off
then it starts over...the gemzar wasnt so bad on him, but the carboplatin is the worst!! he runs a high temp everyday, is so tired and weak, he staggers when he walks, and is so short of breath and now wheezing and rattling! I have calls into the dr. right now and just waiting for a call back..or I will take him to er this afternoon..much to his dislike!!
This is just one nightmare after another and is so hard to cope with! but, we do what we have to do and keep on keeping on..I read so many heart breaking stories on here, and uplifting ones too, and its just so amazing that before april, I really had never heard of bladder cancer, and now, its my whole life!
I am rambling..guess I feel the need to...nothing else to do right now but wait for dr. to call and Ben is sleeping, so here I sit..waiting...worrying, depressed, anxious, angry, hurting, living life the best I can..
thanks to all the wonderful people here helping me get thru this...reading me and letting me vent...again..
paula