Hi Carmine,
If you are describing a single tumor, the only other option for a muscle invasive tumor is the combination of deep TUR/resection, followed by chemo-radiation therapy. The team at Mass. General is probably the most experienced with this, but I'm sure Johns Hopkins has the equipment as well as other cancer centers. In order to qualify a person needs to fit strict criteria and you may already have flunked them by the size of the tumor(s, and/or the location near the bladder neck. But you could always ask if preserving your bladder is of paramount importance to you. There is a page with info on this 'combined modalities' approach here:
blcwebcafe.org/combinedmodalities.asp
The protocol is difficult and it's a long road but some people feel that it's worth it to them.
As I said, you may not qualify for this bladder sparing approach, and if cystectomy is your only option, for sure you snhould go to Johns Hopkins if you can. Dr. Schoenberg is the best.
Keep in touch, and good luck finding your path.
Wendy