Hi Carmine,
Welcome to this site.It is the best place to be when a bladder cancer dx comes. The news of invasive BC came as a shock to me ( I am 42 and female) and sorting thru the possible treatments was hard. It seemed surreal that I was going thru it. Once I understood what I was facing, found Drs I was able to trust, and commit to a plan of attack against the cancer - it became more manageable and survivable. I did the RC/neobladder then 4 months of chemo which was finished 2 months ago. It was not easy but the folks here really helped me get information and sage advice since the day I found this web cafe. We'll be here for you too
Although bladder removal seems like a drastic step to fight the cancer - it is also the best option. And depending on the stage there is sometimes chemo done before or after the surgery. Ask questions and do your research - talk to people who have been where you are. There are some real good guys on this site who are very open to sharing their experience and knowledge as to how this affects men. There is life after BC, RC and chemo
You are in my prayers, Holly