I know I already weighed in with this topic but I had to add a further comment.
Since we just passed the Christmas season, I had to share.
The day after Christmas we thoroughly cleaned up the house and were left with a HUGGGEEE pile of wrapping paper, boxes and etc. My wife looked at the pile....looked at me....looked at the pile, and said "Ok, you can have your old job back now! Get that pile to the dumpster!"
I guess she has finally given me the green light. I am officially of the "watch list" I am back to "normal"
And It feels so good.
We used to talk about cancer regularly. We were afraid! Now we still talk....We just talk.....about everything else.
Light a man a fire and he is warm for an evening.
Light a man ON fire and he's warm forever.
08/08/08...RC neo bladder
New Man! [/size]
Would you believe - I have trouble talking with my husband about my bladder cancer situations. I am the calm one and he is the hyper type A. Usually he is the one with issues and rarely me. I just couldn't tell him the worst thoughts I was having along the way; I really don't think he could have handled it. He usually is the "ostrich who buries his head in the sand", preferring to know as little as possible about uncomfortable situations. So, I gloss over any test results for him. I don't lie - just don't give the nasty details.
"You can't smooth out the surf, but you can learn to ride the waves."
Doug has had 6 surgeries and still doesn't feel comfortable with a lot of people knowing. I haven't told my boss about the last 5 surgeries...just told them I needed to take vacation. There are certain groups that he doesn't mind knowing....the beekeepers are fine (2 of them go to the same uro with different problems) as are the square dancers. He didn't want the minister in our last church to know, but has no problem with the ministers in the church we're in now knowing, but he doesn't want it announced at church. So many people don't understand bladder cancer and sometimes, we get tired of trying to explain it. I guess it all depends on the person....