Vi,
I didn't tell anyone outside of close friends and family when I was first diagnosed. When I did tell people from work it was after my cancer came back and had become invasive and they thought it had spread to both of my kidneys. The kidneys part turned out to be a bad test.
People at work, when I did tell them were great. Many thought I was going to die pretty soon, but at the time so did I since I thought it had spread to both kidneys.
With low grade bladder cancer, the outcomes are extremely good if dealt with properly. I know I sound like a broken record--but that's why I keep harping on you about going to a cancer center to confirm your diagnosis so you can be sure you are getting the proper treatment.
With that said, low grade, non-invasive cancer is very, very treatable and many, many people never ever have a recurrence. It is something that is going to require monitoring for the rest of your life but the chances of nevery having a recurrence are excellent and even if you did have a recurrence, as long as it stays low grade recurrences, things will still be looking good.
People need to understand that bladder cancer is very treatable and that your treatment isn't the chemo that makes all your hair fall out and all that stuff.
I found most people to be truly interested when I explained my situation to them the first time I had CIS. It's high grade but very treatable. I had problems with the treatment so I wasn't really surprised when mine came back.
What you will often find is that people will look to you for cues about how they should react.
When I had my first diagnosis, I freaked out internally but didn't even let my wife know how freaked I was. Then, I did tons of research and asked lots of questions of people to learn as much as I could about the best way to get rid of the bladder cancer.
Even high grade bladder cancer is treatable and curable if caught early, staged correcty, and treated properly.
So, I was pretty confident when telling my grown children, my siblings and others that while I had bladder cancer it was not going to be the thing that killed me.
If you do the right things, you can also have that same level of confidence. And you will be justified in the confidence because you will be right.
As good old Mr. Spock used to say on Star Trek:
Live Long and Prosper!
Mike