Hi guys , I guess I never had the feeling of helplessness with my husband. He is such a strong person and had no clue about anything medical, so this gave me a chance of finally being able to do for him and navigate the medical waters for him. I knew he would do the hard part taking the treatments and I got to baby him.
I was lucky that he told the drs to do what they had to do to save his life and he would listen to them. I just kept them on their toes. I had a briefcase with notebook that I used to orginize all his medical records. This went to ALL apps. with us. I had copies of everything, test , bloodwork everything we needed to stay on top of it all. Sometimes I had copies of test that the drs didn,t have yet.
we were going in for a simple procedure and as they got him ready in same day surgery I questioned the nurses about what they were going to do. I figured out they were going to do something completely differnt from what he was supposed to have done.
I made them put the brakes on everything until we contacted the dr. What a mess, they would have cut him open and taken the wrong parts out. WE made the decision to leave that day instead of taking the chance something wrong would be done.
The role of caretaker is VERY important. Rhea you should talk to your neighbors and see if they can blow snow for you sometimes. Most people don't mind helping if they are made aware of the situation. Though Some people are afraid of stepping on someone elses toes. I am so sorry that you have to carry this heavy load and my prayers are with you. Rocky