Sally,
In our situation we had a nurse, stoma nurse twice a week for 6 weeks, I stuck around the first month, but I asked the kids, our daughter and son to come over on days they could to break up the bordem.We walked and did what we could,for the first month, then I left him when getting a hair cut etc. They can be okay for a few hours but I called while out.Gene is 66 and in good shape, but they are on some med's at first so I didn't want to leave him until he was off those. I think our being with them feels right to them, rather than others. Gene's sisters came over and his brothers but not for lenghty periods. So I stuck it alone pretty much,the best thing is when they can drive, even if its just a short trip somewhere. It was summer for us and we have an inground pool. so the grandkids would come over and give him some laughter to get him thru, and the fall was great so the weather certainly helped. The first month is a bear for both!!!!No driving for at least 5-6 weeks for them......Ginger