Wow, thanks for the replies. I was just putting it out there to see what others are enduring. We have had amazing medical care. The ED part was the LEAST explained to us. Our medical oncologist is a good friend. He secured the best of care for my husband & made sure of seamless transitions between specialists. Our Uro Onco touched on ED post sx briefly. That was during the MVAC pre-sx or post sx stage of tx planning. Sex seemed soooo far removed from the shock and awe of the situation. My husband parent's are both cancer survivors. His oldest sister died @ 40 of liver 2nd to breast @ 35. Bladder cancer is my husband's 2nd primary cancer. He was dx with a 3rd primary while recovering from his cystectomy. He was off work 8 mos. recovering from his cancers and treatments. We started taking our kids to the cancer center for counseling right away. He had a bladder, brats & beer party for his buddies between chemo & surgery. The guys had a great time!! We also spent a great weekend away, alone, before his cystectomy. We are very up front, let's deal with it type of people.
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He too experiences night time erections. His doctors have also told him "use it or lose it" with or without me. It seemed from reading the posts, time will tell.
We weren't ever given a timeline for this part of recovery.
It also seems from the # of views on this thread, this is a hot topic. Few seem to discuss though. I agree though, nothing is better than going to bed at night with my husband, depends and all!!!!!!!!!! I know the depends is a big deal. I tell my husband his depends are our V for victory over his bladder cancer. We too have the protective mattress cover & special pads for him to lay on at night over our sheets. However, he is next to me every night!
Typo--what typo Z??? Thanks for picking up on it!
To Joe: Fight, laugh, fight! You can do this, God's speed!! PS Sex was never an issue until post cystectomy. I don't kow if you are having MVAC or not, but the good days were really good during chemo.