Seconds from Iowa, Mel...they MUST change that tube. It doesn't take much, from my experience. I wonder why they didn't. On the up side....at least it's draining. Which is the good part of all this. Hang on to that!
About the screaming, etc........normal, normal, normal. Vent here yourself. And your sister is "triangulating" a little, I would guess. That means talking to a third person about what problems the speaker is having with a second (forming a triangle rather than a straight line of communication). Sometimes that is because they don't feel the second person is listening, because they are not taking advice. (that would be your mother, probably).
Sometimes it is just for getting someone else to listen, or for support.Home care could be a great help, and it could be very hard for your mom to accept that. You might ask about a visit or two a day. Or call the hospital yourself and tell them that you are running out of bed pads, and that they need to send someone over to help if they're not going to replace the tubes!!!
How does you Dad feel about all this? Is he still talking to you and your family? Or is he still "in his cave?"
Stephany in Iowa