I really do feel badly for you and your situation, Britt. I can't understand why this country can't do better for our veterans. Fortunately for me, while I have to wait for the surgery, I can depend on being able to reach my regular urologist and the urethral reconstruction specialist without being shuffled from doctor to doctor. Should an emergency arise, I'm sure I'll find a way to deal with it. Plus, I haven't had a recurrence of bladder cancer in almost 8½ years since the original cancer. In spite of the grief I've had with the urethral stricture, I consider myself to be in good health. I really am a lucky man.
I also have another advantage, being a physician myself. If I start to have any symptoms I can do a urinalysis and culture without having to worry about reaching my urologist, so I can minimize delays.
I can deal with pain, not that I want to. My only anxiety about the delay is that my son is getting married in Chicago in October and I worry that if I'm having symptoms I won't be able to manage the trip or make the cookie platters and wedding cake.
Your situation just aggravates me. Having cancer is enough of a burden. Having complicating medical problems makes it even more essential that you receive ongoing care from a team of doctors who knows you. You are the kind of patient who should not be passed off from one facility or doctor to another. If the VA can't take care of you, they shold at least assign you a caseworker to make sure you are properly cared for.