Danielle...I know exactly how you feel about this board. 5 years ago I was scared to death and then I found this group. No one knows us like we know each other. It was such a comfort to know there was someone who had gone before you and had words of encouragement and hope for the future. Everyone is so kind and caring. We are very lucky to have found each other.
Hi Anita, I can assure you, they are very good for stress comforting (and in addition cushioning the 'derriere')
Thanks Anita for your few words. I hope to post here often and keep you all informed of hubby's progress. We don't get out as much as we use to do, probably because we are both exhausted at the end of the day. (Small grandchildren to take care of)I spend more time on my PC now, usually searching for information about BC.
I am really glad I took those first steps to join you lovely people at ABCS. You have no idea what a blessing this group is,thank you.
The Caregiver is the one with the Heaviest Burden of all. But... You already know that, don't you? As a patient, I was in control of my life. My wife had the tough job of answering al the questions and keeping up appearances. She also did the most worrying for both of us.
Your husband has the right attitude. But I found, It eased my wife's burden a little when I told my friends about the cancer. They were able to stop gossiping and realize I was Not going to die. It might work for you too. Sometimes the rumors are worse than the facts.
Welcome to our site! You are a wonderful poster and we welcome you to ANY discussion here. You have a Great experience to share with others.
You now know that we don't bite. Maybe others will follow your lead and come into the discussion. Every point of view is welcome.
Light a man a fire and he is warm for an evening.
Light a man ON fire and he's warm forever.
08/08/08...RC neo bladder
New Man! [/size]
I couldn't believe it myself sometimes.Hubby's tennis mates keep asking me if he is OK and I keep up the charade for hubby's sake. Its his way of dealing with BC and quite honestly, who am I to take that away from him.
He told his tennis mates he had prostate problems, not a word about the bladder.
Hubby's oncologist is so pleased with his positive outlook and he really is an example to anyone who feels they can't cope.
Of course he has his down days, but that is shown only to me and its hard sometimes that I can't share it with my girlfriends.My three children know of course, but I don't need to burden them too much, they have their own families to care about.
During his recent chemo,hubby's hemoglobin level dropped dangerously low and he had to have two blood infusions at our local hospital. We bumped into some friends there and he tried to avoid speaking with them, but in the end they caught up with us and I said it was me who was under the weather....(people are sometimes tactless and ask many personal questions.)
Anyway, to those other carers out there, my heart goes out to you too. Its not an easy task and sometimes we are inclined to neglect our own health issues...(I was dragged over the coals last night by my GP, who said my cholesterol levels are through the ceiling.)Back to my non-fat diet and no more cream buns..
Anyway the important thing is we must keep a positive outlook 24/7. Worrying about the future is not going to let us enjoy the present.