djb,
I am sorry you didn't hear better news. You are dealing with a very rare form of bladder cancer. I do not know what your situation is but if you are able I would strongly advise you seek a second opinion from NCI your contact there would be
Piyush K. Agarwal, MD
Head, Bladder Cancer Section
Urologic Oncology Branch
National Cancer Institute, NIH
They are in Bethesda MD. and have a very impressive team, if you are interested please email me and I will send you the exact contact information for his office. This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..
As for distraction do things you enjoy and concentrate on getting into the best shape you can before treatment starts it will give you a leg up. With doctors help and permission, proper nutrition and exercise, even just walking will help.
Remember we are here for you.