Ms. P... I am so sorry about your dear Mother. It is so hard to see our loved ones in pain. Since she is under the care of hospice, the primary purpose of that is palliative care to keep her comfortable and to relieve her pain as much as possible. They are truly amazing people and can offer comfort to you as well as your Mom.
If it is still really bad, can you speak to her doctor about the meds prescribed to see if there are any other alternatives? Sometimes it is a choice between being completely medicated or being able to remain conscious and present with family who may be there with her.
Is she able to let you know her wishes as far as meds are concerned? It is often hard to find the right balance there. My heart goes out to you and your Mother at this very difficult time. There is no easy answer when we reach this point with our loved one. My best to you both...
Best wishes... Catherine
TURBT 1/21/10 at age 55
Dx: T2aN0M0 Primary Bladder Adenocarcinoma
Partial Cystectomy 2/25/10
Vanderbilt Medical Center
Nashville, TN
