Douglas... My situation was a bit different since I wasn't facing total bladder removal, but I think this bears an important point to think about. After discovery of a tumor in my bladder my by gynecologist, I had my first ever visit to a local urologist. Two weeks later, he did the TURBT to remove it.
After the pathology report came back with the "rare" diagnosis of primary adenocarcinoma, he said he would refer me to a larger center that specializes in BC. During our meeting to discuss the report, he said it appeared suspicious for invasion into the muscle layer, but could not be definitely verified, and hopefully they got it all. He said a surgeon may recommend bladder removal, maybe partial removal, he just didn't know. So for those couple of weeks, I was mostly numb from my head whirling around those possibilities.
Just over a week later, I was at Vanderbilt talking to the surgeon he recommended. My options were we could wait and watch, or do his recommended procedure of a partial cystectomy around the tumor site where it had been resected via the TURBT. I was fortunate that it was a solitary tumor in a location that allowed that procedure which is not done very often. He said there was a possibility of the tumor deeper in the muscle than the report could show, or it might all be gone. He left it up to me, but said cancer cells are much like toothpaste... once it is out of the tube, you can't put it back in. Meaning, of course, that if there were any cancer cells left behind, if they are still in the bladder, or travel elsewhere in the body, they likely will show up as mets.
I opted for the partial cystectomy. When the path report of the bladder muscle section came back, guess what, there was a small bit of tumor still there. I was very happy that I had not opted for the wait and watch.
Fortunately I had clean margins and no lymph node involvement on those tested. Like all of us, I am on close monitoring because they really don't have much data as to how these tumors behave in the bladder as far as recurrence or mets.
I know my situation is certainly not on the level of contemplating bladder removal, but the goal is not just to contain the cancer in the bladder, but to take action to prevent to the greatest extent possible, mets to other places in the body.
You can wait and watch, or opt for proactive intervention. The decision is yours to make. I do hope you will give strong consideration to the advice from your very experienced medical team after your results come back next week.
Best wishes.... Catherine