Hi Mike, Yes, there's something really unsatisfying about not being able to have sex if you're dead (thanks for the gallows humor, it gave me a chuckle).
It's very hard for me to convince him to talk to anyone, but I will certainly give him the links you offered. Thanks so much for these.
He thinks that if he has one more BCG there's a chance it will knock the in situ out, but he hasn't factored in that it will come back and become even more aggressive and move even faster, even if they do knock it out this time. I don't know what this six month thing is about. It's as if he thinks it's his "Last Meal" sexually. I'm scared out of my wits that waiting this long might be his last meal period.
His prostate is very healthy and the doctors say there's a good chance of saving the nerve endings. But this last surgery, where they took out the 3 tumors scared him. The healing time has been much, much longer then he thought it would be.
Well, onward and sideways. I'll give him the sites and hopefully that will shift some of his thinking.
Thanks so very much.
Rayn