Bella,
Welcome to the site. You are correct of your assessment of this site; it has so much information; the doctors can feel good about saving lives but the quality of life afterwards is just as important. And the best place to learn about the journey is from those who have walked those miles...there is a wealth of information located here and many concerned individuals who are willing to provide support and encouragement.
I was so impressed by this site and the help I received, that afterwards, I wanted to give back in my own way, and created a website of my own which covers my story and the diversion which I have, the Indy Pouch. You can check it out by clicking on the link below my name.
I was 57 when I had my chemo (MVAC) and then RC; three years later doing very well. I have no regrets and live life almost the same; just takes longer in the bathroom but then again, I can sleep through the night whereas my spouse has to get up a couple of times, as do most of my friends. So there are advantages...just gotta look at the positives as the change takes place. Stay in touch with us...it is quite a tough ride but if you find a good oncologist, a good surgeon and keep a good attitude, you should do just fine.