Carolyn,
Here's a great big (((HUG))). And yes, it really sucks to have to choose between urinary diversions, but doing nothing or waiting too long with a stage 2 will only get worse. We're here and we been where you are.
I had a neobladder done in Mayo's Minnesota this past March. I was so freaked out that they were taking out my bladder and making a new one from my bowels - and even getting a robot involved. Blew my mind and scared me silly. I did it all on a rather quick time frame and still was stage 3 N0MX at RC. If I had to do it all over again....I would still RC/neobladder only I would have done it quicker
My surgery was 3.5 hours and done with DaVinci....I am the 1st successful female neobladder done with robotics out of Mayo's. I have 100% daytime continence, and about 99% at night. Smirnoff Ice or Cosmopolitans can reduce that
LOL I have never had to cath
I thank God for that - I agree with Patricia here.
As a hospice nurse I am sure you have most compassionately cared for plenty of folks loosing their battle. No doubt those vivid memories are close at hand. Hard as it may be, you really need to keep your eye on winning your fight.And you can - stage 2 is pretty decent and doesn't always require chemo if I understand it right. This, my friend, is doable
In less than a year - you could be back to "normal" and living life quite nicely. Focus on winning
Hysterectomy is no picnic...I went into surgical menopause at 37 so I know. I couldn't do HRT as I am a breast cancer survivor, but maybe you can. Instead of PMSing these days - I just get to be "haglike" as I like to call it
Again - you will get past this too
I was told I was a candidate for a neo because my cancer was all in the dome - no where else. My other parts - ureters and urethra all looked good. They did bladder neck biopsies at the 2nd TUR to be sure. Odd as it was - post op they told me I had a 3rd ureter - have 2 on the right side. They hooked them both up to the neobladder! They also discovered I had a rare cancer - urachal (belly button) boring into my bladder. Glad I never considered sparing methods with all that happened with me.
I had a drain on my left side, a bag catching my 2 kidney stents on the right side, the incision down the middle, and a catheter between my legs. No other abdominal tubes - not sure if I was normal tho ??? Keep in mind they are all out in 3-4 weeks when all is healed up. They aren't all forever.
Not sure what I can tell you that will be helpful, but you can ask me anything. I just want to encourage you to forge ahead and get that bladder out at stage 2. Mine was stage 3 with undetermined mets. Tomarrow I head back to Mayo's for my 9 month check up...and I am focussing on winning too
God Bless, Holly
PS I may not be online again til Friday, but I will be back!