My husband is have a radical cystectomy with neobladder next week

So sorry to hear about your situation. These are indeed trying times. My grandson will be dropping his wife off at the front of the hospital in a week or two and then will be picking her up a day or so later along with their new-born daughter. What a bonding experience!!

I suggest that you start making a list of questions you might have and continue to add to it, particularly as you talk to your husband via phone as he recovers. See if you can make an appointment with his primary nurse to discuss the situation and all your questions by phone. And when you do talk to the nurse, as for contact information and times because questions will arise after he comes home.

Your husband is fortunate to have you in his corner!

Sara Anne