Oh Julie. I know this takes a physical, emotional and mental toll on you. I cannot imagine being a sole caregiver day in and day out. But, what else can you do for someone you love.....which I know is why you do it. Nothing I write can help. However, I am always willing to talk and/or listen. My situation is different yet the same. I am not Mama's sole caregiver, so it is not the same for me. However, I do understand some of the things you are going through. Mama also cannot do more than one thing at a time. Any sequence is too much. She says sometimes she feels like a child that cannot remember more than one thing at a time. She has stopped going out of the house even though I think she is not quite as advanced in this as Dick, and does not have the other illnesses along with the cancer. I have had a terrible breakdown today and am not sure if the swelling in my eyes will ever go away.
I am certain this is her last Thanksgiving and CHristmas. However, when I try and talk to my husband or others about that fact, they say things like.."Now, you don't know that." or "Well, it's ok." Well, I DO know that and no it is NOT OK. Sometimes I just want to be sad and don't want anyone to try and sugar coat it or make me feel better. Sometimes I just want a realistic conversation about the fact that my mother is dying and it isn't going to be that long until it happens. Can you relate?