Thanks all for your comments...all make me feel better.
I know I am not alone with this concern and I doubt the medical profession is going to help me. So where to go when you want answers...back to the forum.
The night prior to getting my RC, I told my doctor to leave the vagina alone unless there was cancer...and he was able to oblidge. I wish he had given me some indication that having sex afterwards would be such a painful and difficult chore. I suspect that most doctors just don't know...unless one is married to a BC warrior.
Funny thing is...prior to me having cancer, I wasn't all that interested in sex because my spouse and I had drifted apart emotionally. I thought after the RC he might be less interested but I was wrong. If anything, he is even more crazy about me. As a result of the journey through cancer, I'm one of the fortunate ones, in that my spouse and I grew closer together. He became much kinder and more loving towards me and now as a result I am more inclined to want to please him. What's a gal to do ???
Yes, I recognize I'm extrememly lucky to be alive and doing so well and yet I feel there must be some way to overcome this last concern. My nurse friend did tell me about using an estrogen cream but she said there is a risk of cancer...as my family doctor also warned me about...so that is why I have shyed away from that idea.
Now that I have this topic open...let's not allow it to fade into the background. If I am able to figure out how to let my spouse go the distance, without great pain to me, I'll be sure to share the details with those who are interested. Hugs to all, Melodie