My husband has bladder cancer and was diagnosed with it just two months ago. It has invaded the muscle.
He is 81 years of age, has advanced dementia, and now the bladder cancer.
He is now fully incontinent and my oldest son and I are caring for him at home. It is a lot, but I want him to be cared for by those who love him.
There's so much we don't know and getting a VA doctor or a Urologist on the phone is a difficult task. That is partly why I have resorted to this chat. I don't know what to expect. We found blood in his brief today and the pain seems to come and go, but today more pronounced. Aleve and Tylenol seemed to kick it for the most part, but it doesn't seem to be doing as well now.
The urologist does not recommend putting him through treatment, and I agree. He would not do well with treatment and it would be too much for us to care for him should they remove his bladder or if he should pull out a catheter, etc. His mind is often like a child although he has moments of lucidity.
I guess what I am looking for is the signs of what to look for when I should call Hospice. I'm having a hard time letting go, as one would expect, but I do not want him to suffer either. Do the doctors give out pain medications for this type of cancer?
