If you are reading this, it is a good bet that you are someone who cares about someone who is dealing with a bladder cancer diagnosis. This website is dedicated to answering whatever questions you have about bladder cancer and its treatments, please remember that the social support community is meant for you as well as the patient.
Someone I know once said that when her loved one got cancer that all his loved ones became cancer warriors also. It takes a whole army to fight bladder cancer: medical professionals, the patient, loved ones, and their support network make up the core of this army. All have their job; no one person can should this journey alone.
Bladder cancer patients come in all different shapes and sizes and their reaction to their diagnosis will all be varied also. Some will want every piece of information they can get their hands on. Some will not even want to talk about it with a “just tell me what to do” attitude, and everything in between. These differences will outline what they need from you. The following may help as you take this journey with your loved one.
Knowledge is power in cancer treatment, if your patient does not or cannot learn about their condition do it for them. If they do learn all about it, you do also.
There is no right or wrong way to talk to a cancer patient, sometimes just letting us talk or just being there is all that is needed.
Very few people remember what their doctor had to say during their appointment. Having someone to help them make up a list of questions and to take notes during their appointment is invaluable. A treatment folder to hold paperwork is a must-have.
Worry, stress and sometimes medications during treatment can make it hard for many patients to concentrate and stay organized. Pay attention and if the everyday things are not getting done, an offer of help may be very welcome.
Do not take it personally if we seem moody or preoccupied. The emotional ramifications of a cancer diagnosis can be immense. But remember just because we have cancer does not give us the right to be abusive. Let us know if we are out of line.
Take care of yourself; stress is not just for the person with the cancer diagnosis. Remember to deal with your stress and to get enough rest. Take time outs even if it is to take a walk or have a cup of coffee with a friend
A support network can help a great deal having someone to talk to can mean a great deal. Find a support group or join ours in our forum section.