Bless you, Karen -- I tremendously appreciate your generosity in posting this
very personal window into your family's battling journey. You are so articulate and passionate and your husband sounds like a wonderful man.
We are also "waiting for the next bomb to drop" as multiple mets are clearly visible in my liver and lungs. But I cannot engage my husband in a discussion;
he is a doer not a talker and he never complains when I ask for a little extra
help.
I really appreciate your plea for communicating with each other. The topic is
often touched upon but seldom with such articulate passion. As you know, my situation today (maybe not tomorrow) is a little different. I do feel well, but
still have pictures to prove my status as a person who will die from my cancer
unless an accident or unrelated medical emergency takes me first. My life
expectancy estimate last November was 6-12 months and the focus of my hope right
now is treatment that may reset the clock and give me another year or so. There
is also the risk that side effects will reduce my quality for the duration.
My heart goes out to you. One thing about the youngest child and memories of his father. I think showing family picutes and talking about them can form memories
powerfully. If you have a lot of family pictures, family story time could maybe be built around them sometimes. (I lost most of mine in Katrina, but some were spared and family members have been sharing others. They know the importance.) Both of
our sons have a copy of a picture of their Grandfather striding down the hall
at the school where he was a headmaster. Each has it displayed on the wall
in his home. Neither of them knew him at that stage of their lives, but that picture symbolizes their Grandfather to them.
Tonight is my "prayer warriors" night and you and my other web cafe friends will
be in our prayers again tonight --Susan
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