Kelly,
I'm not sure about the disability claim portion of your question.
However, it seems that you may want to see if your urologist can change your neobladder to an Indiana pouch or some other urinary diversion so you don't have this problem. That way you won't be in the disability situation at all.
Your posting will most likely get moved to another section of the web site as this section is usually for posting links to published articles about bladder cancer. Once it gets moved to someplace like "Invasive", there is a probability that more people will see it and be able to respond.
Best of luck!
Mike
P.S. Your uroligist should know if people have been able to successfully claim disability for your situation. Most (if not all) disability claims require information from a doctor.
Age 54
10/31/06 dx CIS (TisG3) non-invasive (at 47)
9/19/08 TURB/TUIP dx Invasive T2G3
10/8/08 RC neobladder(at 49)
2/15/13 T4G3N3M1 distant metastases(at 53)
9/2013 finished chemo -cancer free again
1/2014 ct scan results....distant mets
2/2014 ct result...spread to liver, kidneys, and lymph...