Dear Betsy Mae , As I read your post and the others I wondered what I could say, the words are so hard to find. I don't know what your beliefs are but as I thought of you Psalms 91 of the Bible came in to my mind.
My prayer is for strength and love to fill you and your family as you try to decide what your next move will be, I know the people on this site will be there to give you all the info and support you need . God bless. Rocky