Hi Julie and Karen,
Thanks for your thoughtful replies
My parents are in Lodi, California. I am in Sacramento, about 45 minutes away.
Yesterday, he went to the Ben Schaffer Cancer Institute. The referral to Hospice is ideal, I believe, because it is the opinion of multiple treating physicians that there is no surgical option. They had suggested chemotherapy should he ever become strong enough. He is becoming weaker by the day. He refuses treatment with chemotherapy or radiation, stating he would like to live out the rest of his life in peace. That would be nice, but trying obtain breakthru medicine has been somewhat challenging.
Most of the doctors agree that his bowel obstructions prevent the use of too much narcotic. However, this is why he is being fed intravenously and had nothing by mouth for weeks now. He is 5'10 and now weighs 116 lbs and is steadily losing weight. He has not had a bowel movement since he has been put on IV feeding, and the doctors seem to think that he should have anyway (citing that most patients "cheat" nad eat anyway), and that they dont' want to give him breakthru medication in case he is constipated. They give him mag citrate to clear the constipation.
Does anyone khow if bowel movements are to be expected in a patient with a feeding tube? If so, then perhaps that is contributing to his pain. the home health nurses seem to think he shouldn't necessarily have a bowel movement. This is why things are so confusing.
Dad is planning on just removing the feeding at some point. He talks of ending his own life at times because he is so miserable. I just feel awful for him. He does not talk, eat, he can barely walk.
Thanks for all the information. I sincerely appreciate it!! Sorry if I rambled on and on. It is good to get this off my chest!!
Kay