I really think you are having some natural or rather "just human" reactions.
Bob and I have always had a good marriage (27 years, a second marriage for each of us), through the good and bad but I have caught myself at times with "cabin fever", just wanting to get out and ride.
We have traveled quite a bit during our 27 years, places we never thought we would get to go but for the past 8-9 years, have spent most of our summer time in the NC mountains. I just knew we could go up there and stay just as well as we could at home but Bob did not feel comfortable there and so we stayed at home most of the time since his diagnosis in January 2007. Bob has had an issue with pain all along but it has been under control for awhile and he is gradually cutting back on the medicine since his last radiation.
Finally, last weekend we did go to the mountains and when we came back to our home here, I just thought about the saying, that no matter how far you may roam, the best part is coming home. Bob has all ready planned an outing to western NC this week for us, he is wanting to see if it will bother him to ride that far. He is working himself up to take a trip to visit our son on the NC coast.
I almost feel guilty sometimes now that we are having such a good time together but we both know that he has a PET scan the end of Nov. and will hear the results in Dec. Chemo might be in our near future again or as he says, he will get knocked back down. Right now, it is almost like we are trying to cram everything in that we want to do while he feels good.
Bob was not able to have surgery since his cancer had gone so far so I have not had to deal with the side effects of that but I do wish it had been caught earlier and we could have dealt with it. I do not dwell on what the future brings, just praying, counting on our faith, love, family and friends.
It is hard to put up a front sometimes but I have always realized that the trials in our lives have made us stronger people.
You are certainly in my prayers. Please just try to have faith and let others help you when you can.
This board has really helped me through all of this....
Your friend,
Clara