Thank you for your answer. God bless you all!
Yes it is a tough time. Mostly I feel sorry for my father, who answers my questions reluctlantly and controlled . I can sence he is hiding something, not giving space for his worries, just controling himself.
Well, I meet my parents frequently, at least once a week, so I know there is no long hospitalization in this case. Knowing my mom, she is afraid of doctors and very concerned with her body image, so she probably chooses anything if it is bladder sparing.
I have the feeling , like you, that there is something contradicting in the situation, in the information i have versus the diagnosis. When I meet my mom, she seems ok, and in good spirits, but i wonder how much of that is a fake, because I see the effects on my dad, getting more and more tired, tied and controlled. He often suggests short meetings with me over a coffe during my lunchbreak, but he always has to hurry home to mom. Probably this is a sign of her own fears, of the fear of being left alone with the dark thoughts that cannot be discussed.
But Thank you for you answer and your concern, and i would be thankful if anybody would have any ideas about the situation, or could advice me to some good web sites on the matter.
All the best to all of you!