Ulli
I didn't know that I had sent a post to your husband before, but I'm glad I did! And I am glad that I posted to you too.
This cancer thing is a Team Sport! It cannot be won by a single person. I know that the driver of a race car gets the accolades, but the driver knows that he cannot win without his team. There is a common thread here.
When I was diagnosed, It was a 2x4 to the forhead! Wow! I just went into lockdown.
My wife started slowly, but I still remember her saying that I needed to let her in because I wasn't going to beat this on my own. So... We had many long and wonderful talks. Pretty soon we were discussing "EVERYTHING"
I had to tell my employees what was happening..... And soon I just started telling my friends and aquaintences (Small town talk had me dead and buried at the first word "cancer") Some of my friends stayed away.... afraid
Some aquaintences became very close friends as they made effort to stop by or send positive messages.
All of this made my recovery a positive thing. My relationship with my wife went from good to "FANTASTIC"...... we became the TEAM that would never be beaten. We learned that everything was on the table for discussion and there was never any reason to hold back. No judgment. Only support.
I know that cancer is a dirty rotten damnable, awful thing. Worse than that actually. But you need to find the positive in this. You can't beat this alone.
Sit down, turn off the phones, TV, lock the doors and.... Talk.
Nobody is that much of a rock. I was never about talking about things....I was supposed to be strong. But I needed my team to be strong
And they were. And they are!
Sorry for the crushing word count...... But You are going to beat this....Together!
George
As for the racing last weekend...... We Blew the clutch and didn't get to race the second day. But we had a BLAST anyway with the new friends we made (the bourbon helped) and we will fix it and do it again next month at Lime Rock
Oh Yeah..... kinda like getting through cancer !!