Welcome Sandra. Thank you for introducing yourself. You live on a lake, wow, that's my fantasy. I live in a houseboat in Amsterdam, the atmosphere is beautiful but I can't swim in the canal...I think if I had my wish I'd live IN the water itself, fish-like. Next life (or maybe it was..last life?)!
I'm sorry to hear about your bladder cancer diagnosis. It sounds like you've been through months of very scary stuff. Good for you getting yourself online to learn more from those who've been there. It's a hard one sometimes (ignorance is bliss). Cancer info is confusing. Everyone is different too, so there's no predicting how a person will respond, if they'll get side effects. Some do, some don't, just like sometimes treatments work and sometimes they don't, and that's the way it is.
Luckily there are treatments for bladder cancer that work well, and long term survival has some of the highest statistics in 'cancerland'. It pretty much depends on the stage and grade of the original cancer. Was your tumor Ta or T1? The 'T' stage refers to the depth the tumor invaded the bladder lining (or not). Don't worry, there is not a lot of difference in long term survival between Ta and T1 tumors...so long as the cancer doesn't progress to stage II, then a statistical difference appears. But even with higher stage bladder TCC, the survival rates are excellent. A good knowledgable doctor is paramount, this is a complicated disease and approaches can vary widely depending on where you go.
In any case a person should have access to the latest technological advances, if at all possible. Walter Reed should fit that bill.
The new doctor sounds like he knows what he's doing, and when you get that path report let us know how it came out. Good thing he went back in and did the second TUR, and the dose of mitomycin sounds like he's up on the latest guidelines for high grade, Ta/T1 TCC.
You may be able to make it to the wedding, you might be happily surprised. But keep your priorities straight and don't stress out over it, whatever happens.
Most women say each treatment gets a little tougher, but you get some time between them...there is a bit of leeway with scheduling allowed, too. The lastest info says that people who have bad side effects should hold off until they go away before proceding with the following treatment. That's the good part of BCG treatments, they can tailor them to fit the individual; ie, reduced doses and schedule postponement, both without losing effectiveness of the treatment.
It's important not to keep receiving BCG if it is hurting too much, then it becomes overkill.
Take good care,
Wendy