Bill,
I'm sorry but shouldn't you think of yourself first. I hate politics. I know you want to be considerate of your family and the local medical community but is that more important than your life and the quality of your life. Can't you slip away with all your records and quietly get a 2nd opinon without everyone knowing about it? Can't you go on a mini-vacation and stop in and see a specialist elsewhere?
If you don't get the care you need and suffer ugly consequences,
won't your family and friends feel bad knowing you did not get the best care possible because of them.
My spouse often tells me, "God helps those who help themselves." Have a good talk with God about this. I think He would want you to put forth your best effort. Not all medical professionals are created equal...I implore you to get the very best your insurance will cover. You're in my prayers.