Hello. I am new to the forum and I signed up hoping to get some help.
My dad was diagnosed with high grade urithelial carcinoma , muscle invasive last year. He had 4 rounds of chemo , and a radical cystectomy this past February . Lymph nodes were clear . In April he started having bad pains in his pelvis and genitals , then nerve pain in his leg. He wasn't diagnosed until August with bladder cancer recurance ( even though the bladder is gone ). He started radiation and chemo for 6 weeks . In September he had no metastasis . In October they found spreads in both lungs and liver . The cancer is so aggressive . He is starting immunotherapy tomorrow but the doctors are giving up very little hopes . They said he has 6 months or so .
He is not eating anything and he's very weak , lost 60 lbs , in a lot of pain , and he stays in bed literally all day long . We are so devastated . How do we accept there is nothing that can be done for him ?
He has a 4 month old grandughter , all he talks about is how he wants to see her run in the yard .
He is only 57. He is so young and wants to live so bad . We are all heartbroken. It is only him and my mom here . We have no other family . We are devastated.
I was hoping to get some insights on what to expect in the final stages , and any advice , anything and everything is helpful . Please share
Angelina
