Julie...you are on my mind constantly!!! I wasn't sure if I should respond or not, I think this time is so unique and personal...please enjoy every minute...even when he frustrates you...you will wish for that frustration I promise you that...
It may be time to choose only the pills necessary. If the act of giving him the pills is so hard on, him swallowing etc...and it will get to that point...it may be worth it to see if any of them come in liquid form...or stop all together...if you are worried about fluids...he can have an IV...I know it is only saline, but its something...Angelo had a Sub Q morphine pump...it was a God spend for pain relief. Angelo's feet were warm until the day before he died...and then throughout the day/night/following morning everything slowly got cold from the feet up. I wish I could give you a hug...
I'm here if you need me,
Karen