Let me respond to that last part, Julie, and then I'll "take your question off the air...." as they say in radio land.
I had them put the hospice bed in the living room, and that's where Doran stayed until he died.
If I had it to do all over again, I would not have done that. I would have worked to get him up to his own bed, and left him there.
That said, I cannot predict what would happen if you do move him, but I still feel that if I had gotten him into our own bed, I would have been a little easier with the whole situation.
Yes, it was easier to clean him up, and yes, it was closer to the door and kitchen.
But....., and this is a big but......., if he had been in our bed, I would have been able to sleep closer. I would have been able to be in the bed with him, and that would have comforted both of us. And he would have been closer to a shower, if he wanted one. I had to deny him that comfort the last few days of his life.
Maybe he would have slipped in the bathroom. Maybe he wouldn't have been able to be as safe as in the hospital bed.
But, I would have had him closer to me at the end.
There, that's my two cents worth.
And you're right, the oxygen concentrator is TOO loud. I put it in the bathroom, and used a really long tube.
Stephany in Iowa