Julie, Boy he is having a bad time of it. I hope he can get beyond this and back to some normalcy, at least feeling like a real person again. Yes we all forget our med's. I do as well, but the heart med's are very important to take at the same time. Gene is different than before his r/c. I can't put my finger on it but I guess it has made him old in some ways. His leg leg still bothers him, and the nerves in his upper inner thigh..the doctor says to give it time,so we are in recovery still,and will be for the year I think.He is going to work 3 days a week for 6 hours each day. This is good as he doesn't do anything hard just sells high end lawn equipment. I have nothing to complain about after hearing what you both are going thru, but we haven't grabbed that the way we were thing, in alot of ways it will never be close to that. He mentions when he hasn't gone to the bathroom in a couple days, and he rubs his bag , sort of a reassurance that its there, or that its not showing. I want to get past these things ,I do get depressed because I am right in it with him as you well know . We can't excape it either. Maybe in our minds just for a little while. I go to Target, Its cold up here now so outside is not an option. You have to watch your husband carefully now I assume. It seems he is disattached somehow..I hope it gets better for you both, and soon!!!!! You can escape to the Caregivers forum, we can talk about our feelings we have, from a caregivers view...take care and keep me up on things...Ginger