Warrior
Don't take a lack of freely offered support or compassion as rejection. The word CANCER has a chilling effect on the people around us. Others do not understand what people with cancer are going through - they just don't know how to respond or what they can say. They don't know if you are going through a rough stretch, or if your demise is imminent.
No one wants to hear the nitty-gritty of a TURBT procedure, or bloody urine or catheters.
They just want you to get well - they want you to be the you were before the focus of your world became bladders, ureters, urethras and catheters.
Try to give those around you more time to become comfortable with the changes. Your world has taken a detour and so has theirs. Once old friends and acquaintances see that you are dealing with your medical issues and remaining involved in life, they will feel more comfortable and safe in being more supportive.
They are not dismissing or ignoring you. They are afraid of saying the wrong thing, and they don't have a clue.
Here in the forum, we understand. We are a group that are on the same road, some of us new here, and others who are further along on the journey.
Hang in there. We all adjust.
Best
Jack