Eileen,
All that advice is highly recommended. Actually I have done the pedicure nail thing as I have my own little corner of the world shop I frequent when possible, And boy, it sure perks you up. The cleaning service another good one, I may use them if I get that desperate, I keep there card around for occasions when I am in the market.
But I think you may have missed my point. My point being, HE is helping me, he is capable at this point and its a dual purpose as he will benefit from helping out as well. Some caregivers can't ask for help from their husbands or wives as they are too sick, we are fortuneate, we need to help each other. If all that fails I'll call MOLLY MAIDS. Your point well taken about money saved by not seeing a shrink, I saw one after watching my dad die for 6 days in hospice in Tucson Arizona, I came home to Ohio, dead of winter, feeling I somehow helped the dieing process by letting him die in Hospice. So that was worth the 120.00 an hour believe me. But for now, being the age we all are in this process, since its a healing process for both, we should turn to each other because we can. Some like Karen cannot, I would love to send Molly Maid to her, and send her out for a glamour day.
The money I save would be better spent on my grandchildrens Christmas gifts, thats coming up soon, so I will take your advice, go for a pedicure, but still let Gene help me, as he can. And for all those in the recovery process, depending on where your at in the stage, its the repeated daily routine that gets you, change it when possible, but don't feel bad if you need a day to get it all out. And send a pm to one your comfortable with and ask, and How are you, I do this with Margo and Dar, and we seem to have some of the same issues, hearing them repeat it to you makes you feel, normal. Divorce not an option here, 40 years and counting. Thanks Eileen I so enjoy your writings. Your big day is just around the corner. You'll do great"
GINGER BEANE