I'm glad this discussion came up, as it has given me ideas on how to help my parents. It never occurred to me, but now that my dad's catheter is out, and he is not allowed yet to practice kegels, my parents laundry needs have gone up dramatically... This morning, my mom asked if she could bring over some laundry...no problem! I haven't been able to go over much this week, my kids are have a bug, and I'm terrified of my dad getting sick. But if I can help out with groceries, laundry or whatever else, I can do that and not be there spreading germs. I've been trying to pick up medications etc for them, and a bit of groceries, but I might be able to sneak over this weekend and help tidy or make dinner.
Thanks for the discussion. I think from the outside, its easy to forget the needs of the caregiver, because everyone is worried about the person who is ill... andrea