I wanted to reassure you your post is being seen. A few questions on my
end. If your Mom is on dialysis, are the kidneys cancerous? If so I
could see understand the surgery suggestion surgery, if not why is this proposed? As far as
bladder removal. This is a very rigorous surgery even if your Mom
generally has good health (I question good health if on dialysis), it is
high risk. So much of this is way above my pay grade and none of us are
doctors knowing all her situation, simply those that have "been there and done that".
I would have an in-depth question and answer with the medical team and
ask lots of questions on why? What if? What after the surgery will look
like? Can a 93 year old handle this or, how many 85+ old patients has this
doctor operated on? What were the prognosis and outcomes? Are there
other treatments that may extend life with a 93-year-old with general
good health? Yes, even to the point of a second opinion for other treatment ideas. Adding this kind of surgery, Medicare may also have
something to say on payments.
You are certainly a wonderful caregiver helping out.