Gabe,
Only you and your doctors are familiar with YOUR situation and have the ability to reach reasonable conclusions. All that can be offered here is opinion from people have been dealing with their own somewhat similar medical condition.
That said, may I suggest that helpful questions may be along the line of, "Was the tumor completely removed; were there clear margins around the tumor AND has this tumor created a great risk of immediate metastasis?"
The follow up question would be, "Is it reasonable and safe to delay RC surgery to allow time for preoperative chemotherapy?"
The second question is likely to be the more difficult for the care team to answer. An RC at any stage is not a 100% cure. Physician judgment and recommendation is an important part of the decision making process
I understand your concern and quest. I have been advised that a RC is the "safest" route for me to take. My situation is not yours; when/if I decide to go the RC route, I will assume that there is a chance of undetected metastasis and will do chemo first.
I read extensively, and offer two articles that address the RC decision and long term outcome considerations. I found these helpful
www.texasoncology.com/types-of-cancer/bladder-cancer/stage-ii-bladder-cancer
moffitt.org/File%20Library/Main%20Nav/Research%20and%20Clinical%20Trials/Cancer%20Control%20Journal/v7n4/article3.pdf
The second article is from a highly respected source, Moffitt.
Best,
Jack