Dannie
I was 53 when I was diagnosed with bc. I was quite active (skier,golfer, auto racer)
I was given the three choices and chose a neo because it offered me as close to a normal life as possible. The performed the usual tests and I was told the neo was the #1 option, but that once they were in there, they would determine what I eventually got. It was a little disappointing to be marked for a colostomy port (just in case)
Well, I have a neo. And I had a capable surgeon who did a fine job and the medical staff was vigilent about not getting an infection ( A REALLY BIG DEAL )
I followed their rules and recovered quite well after 1 1/2 months at home.
While no procedure is perfect, and I still have some incontinence issues, I am happy with my outcome. I am now 8 years out and still doing everything I always did before.
Do your research and find the best surgeon that has done HUNDREDS of procedures. And live with your choice.... Have no buyers remorse. All of the choices have their niggling downsides and they have to be overcome.
But if I had to do it again....... I'd get a neo all over again.
George
Best of luck