I echo George's wise words. Get the thing out of there!! But, having said that, I will add that you do have time to slow down and plan the course. Yes, you DO want a urologist who does MANY cystectomies and who does have experience with women. This could be your current urologist or it might not. That is your decision. You need to ask the questions...does he see and treat a lot of women? Can he offer you a choice of diversions or is he just familiar with one?
If I remember correctly, you live in Arizona? There are several good options for a second opinion in Phoenix....Mayo and Dr. Donald Lamm at BCOncology.
Just remember, yes...you want this thing out of there but yes you also want it done right. An extra week or so to get all the information you need and to make a decision that you feel comfortable with is very important.
Wishing you the very best
Sara Anne