Hi, sorry to hear you are going through this. I can only offer you my personal experience from supporting my father in his final days in hospice, please realize everyone will not have the same progression. Be rest assured that you are in a great place as hospice care is the best possible situation for what you are expereincing. My father entered hospice in similar condition as he was upright in bed with little or no pain initially. But, he was unable to eat or drink anything and had a feeding tube inserted the week prior to hospice. His bladder cancer had matasticised in his rectum and intestines. The first few days were OK as he was coherent and in decent spirits. My advice would be to enjoy that time as it will likely go downhill very quickly. Hospice nurses gradually increased his morphine since his pain increased on day 3 and 4, and the jaundice eventually takes over and the eyes begin to sink in. The feet and legs continue to swell and as they continue to increase morphine, my dad essentially entered a comatose state. I will say that it seemed many other cancer patients on his floor that i visited seemed to progress simarly. I will say that is the toughest period as they are unresponsive and appear to struggle to breath. But, as hard as it was, I was glad to be there holding his hand and talking to him during that time. It seemed like an eternity, but in reality was only about 36 hours until he quietly gasped his last breath and passed. Good luck with your mother-in-law, I am sure hospice will keep her comfortable. Best regards.
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