I've learned more than I ever wanted to know about bladder cancer since Mom's diagnosis, and I've found the folks here so nice, supportive, and helpful. I know no one can really make decisions for mom. Not even her own children. We're just all trying to think about the surgery being as informed as possible. So far, I haven't read of anyone over 80 who has had the surgery, but am learning that even for people much younger, it was quite an ordeal. I won't be going anywhere. Even for support, this is a wonderful place to come. And when we are talking about moms - well there are no more special people in the world to us. I can't imagine life without her in it, so this has been especially difficult for me. As soon as she was diagnosed and several times since then, she has encouraged us children to "be cheerful." I always am when going with her to chemo or blood transfusions - but it's killing me inside and is breaking my heart. Thanks for the support. Mary