Thanks, Sara Ann, I appreciate your comments a lot. Jim and I decided as we have done most things in our marriage that his BC was a team effort. We figured most of the thins we addressed over the many years of marriage had worked out well with that approach. To relieve him of so many of the things that need to be done with BC I told him his job was to get through the surgery, get through the chemo and get well. He has done two of the three so far. I will help with all the stuff that needs to be done, insurance issues/ordering supplies/Rxs etc. It has worked well to this point. Jim has always had high pressure type jobs either as a manager or in the engineering fields so he is totally capable of doing any and all of what I do but if I am willing and able it relieves him of some of the stresses that he doesn't need to be dealing with right now Today, he is dealing with a HUGE diarrhea problem from his chemo on Thurs + Friday. So, that's enough for him today.
I come from a 43 yr medical background as a mammographer/nuclear med technologist. So, it is second nature to me with finding info out. It's always different when it's one of your own, more so I suspect than if I were the one ill. Well, off track but thanks for the acknowledgment to wives and husbands. It's a real challenge for sure! Hard to watch your loved one suffering. But, short term suffering hopefully for long term reward.
Mike, thanks for the hat tip. You know what a basket case I was when I first came here. I was so upset I left for a few weeks to recoupe from the intial onslaught. But, did come back because I needed more information and this was the place I got it and still do! Thanks to all who have helped us so much!