Kathy,
Yes, patience is key! I was never very patient but over the last year of fighting BC, and some medical people and some insurance people, etc...I have learned patience. It isn't easy to acquire it for some of us, but it is obtainable...just keep working on that virtue...it will make life easier for you.
Yes...dairy products often contributes to mucus for many of us....and I LOVE cheese, and yogurt and milk shakes, etc...even pizza often causes me an overload of mucus, so I have cut way back on my dairy. I've also found that salad dressings, mayo, and some soups do the same thing to me. But heck, I have to have some dairy in my diet, so usually I will save those type of foods for my evening meal as I usually will irrigate just prior to bed and when I first get up in the morning. If I have eaten dairy in the morning or for lunch, I will usually drink a bottle of cranberry or crangrape juice...or have some green tea to help break up the mucus; otherwise I have to spend more time in the restroom trying to get a good flow going.
I found my first three months after RC very frustrating for me...trying to get the leaking under control, the mucus under control and determining what type of clothing best suited my new life style...when I got to the fourth month, things began to improve at a much faster pace...maybe the system had finally adjusted...and at month seven, I felt normal enough to return to work.
Wishing you the best...just remember this healing business takes time and cannot be rushed...no matter how slight the improvement might seem, every day healing is taking place...take a deep breath and accept that, for now, it is what it is, but things will get better. Hugs to you. Melodie