Maria,
well its good news for you, don't feel to bad about being freaked out about this whole situation. I remember after Gene was diagnosed I said to some people I didn't even know,,my husband has bladder cancer, I knew I should go home and not leave til I was more emtionally ready. I am a caregiver but watching the ones who experience it is wrenching. I can tell you the surgery is not as bad as it seems, at least to Gene it wasn't. The answer to that is to be at a number one hospital with people who know what there doing. You see Gene turns everything over to me, so I was a secretary, oh the paperwork, its mind boggling isn't it. I always had a pad of paper but with the Cleveland Clinic they documented everything and I got copies.Its a hard time of year to have this, no time is good, but with the holidays coming its an extra issue. To your emotions I say cry it all out and get it over with, you'll be better for it and in recovery, Peter just called Gene, he said he has a bladder and prostate for sale,, boy he is really doing good!!!Take care Maria,
Ginger