cas,
You are in the right place - people here weather they are family or patients - care and want to help
Any cancer diagnosis causes distress. When I was diagnosed I was very afraid and it scared my family too. It takes some time to come to terms with how it changes things. So you are very normal :)Some times it just takes a little while to adjust.
It sounds like your Dad has seen a dr who did a TUR ( the surgery to remove a bladder tumor) and that he is scheduled for a scope before he starts BCG. That he is getting treated is very good. He will need to have regular check ups but that is how it is with many illnesses.
Yes, there is alot of scary information on the internet about bladder cancer - but you need to know there are 2 kinds - invasive and non invasive. It sounds like your Dad is in the noninvasive group. The invasive cancer can be treated too - that is what I had. I am doing good
With Thanksgiving being tomarrow - maybe you can try to just set this aside and spend time with your Dad and think about fun and family.
God bless, Holly